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We both married as unbelievers, now I’m converted to Christianity, my husband is hardened and adamant, he comes home drunk, he has broken bottle on me several times and he has defiled the matrimonial bed. What should I do? Response The heart of the king is owned by God, so the heart of every man is also owned by Him, the Bible says “there is nothing impossible for God to do”. Talk to God about him and your desires, what you want God to do in the situation. God will heal him and also buy back time for him, if you sincerely pray. Now that you know Christ, behold all things are new, you stopped sharing same life, interest and desire, you left him to his life of unbelief and sin. Now you have become a stranger to what both of you  used to like and probably enjoy. You need to understand that he does not have what it takes to change on his own or by his effort, because the devil is the master and also controls the affairs of the unbeliever, he may not see wrong in w...

Why Should I Save Sex For Marriage? When God creates something, He creates it with purpose and plan. The Genesis account of creation makes it clear that God’s creation is good Genesis 1:31. But mankind has a history of distorting what God has made, whether out of ignorance or just plain stubbornness. Sex was God’s idea, God created it. And therefore it is reasonable to expect that it is good. But when man distorts it by ignoring God’s specific standard, it’s becomes harmful and destructive to man. “Why save sex for marriage?” is really a question of understanding God’s way, and experiencing the beauty of His plan, but we can choose to do things our way and experience harm and destruction Proverb 16:25.  Why sex? Was it in in plan of God? God wants us to develop intimacy, procreation. When God told Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply” Genesis 1:28, they probably figured out that He wanted them to have sex, because that ...

When sex is dirty Lusts are destructive to man’s soul. Galatians 5:19, “now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness”. Don’t give yourself up to the indulgence of sensual appetite, or to the soft pleasures of the soul.  Bible encourages us not to be conformed to this world, but we should be transformed by the renewing of our minds and also to set aside every weight that easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Rom12:2, Heb12:1. Lev. 18:22 reads, “thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind, it is abominable.23, neither shalt thou lie with the beast to defile thyself therewith, neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto. Jude 1:7, “Even as Sodom and Gomorrah and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengean...

There are so many others facing different and unique issues in their marriages. My advice to you either a man or a woman is that, when the issues are going out of hand and it seems you cannot go on in your marriage again, then you will need the intervention of friends, family and the church. Whoever you consider to help you should be someone you can trust for right support, and for you, what should be paramount is your well-being, how to take care of yourself. You love your spouse, but what is the reality on ground? There are problems you cannot handle and they are frustrating your marriage. Do not tell me that you are holding on and that you are expecting a change, what if there is no change? He is still doing those same things, how long can you wait for him hoping for a change? Have you thought about the effect of what can happen to you if he does not change? He keeps beating you, still drinks, fornicates and he is still all the nots, what effect will all these have on your health,...

Sex is the most intimate and tender physical expression of emotional love that can be achieved by a man and woman in marriage relationship. Our continued existence is dependent on it. It is good, the pleasure and the fun is in the arena of the marriage. Copulation ranges from purely reproduction to emotional bonding. It plays a strong role in the marriage relationship, and it is a way to share pleasure and strengthening emotional bond to help interaction between couples.    It is one night of stolen pleasure worth a lifetime of wonders or regret.  Do you want to miss the true joy of sex by throwing it away on someone who is using you to satisfy his or her selfish desire? Many people have made decisions about sex that they have regretted for the rest of their lives. God is giving us opportunity to save ourselves from all pains. Will you make up your mind today, once and for all, to save yourself for marriage and experience the joy of sex just as God intended? Choices ha...

Love is the purification of the heart from self. It strengthens and enables the character, gives a higher motive and worthier aim to every action of life, and makes both man and woman courageous. To love abundantly is to live abundantly and to love forever is to live forever. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. However, a couple greatly increases their chances of having a good relationship if they both: Believe in God Have same religion and accept each other’s doctrines  Have good self esteem Have important values and interests in common  Have well-developed personalities Communicate honestly and effectively Have compatible levels of sexual desire Have positive body image Agree on appropriate gender roles Agree on the sexual activities you want to explore If any of these qualities is missing, developing a healthy, satisfying relationship will be more difficult. If you've ever been in a relationship that involved sexual activity, you know that s...

Marriage is full of expectations. Our parents, families, friends and others want us to reflect or mirror them in our own marriages. When they give advice, they expect us to take to it hundred percent and live by it hundred percent. That your parents or whoever lived in a certain way or seem to get it right in their marriage is not a criteria for you to live your live patterned after them or dedicate your life to living after them. That they are experienced does not make their experience work in your own marriage. Some parents want to dictate the kind of house you will live, the kind of car to drive, how many children you should give birth to, how you should take care of your family and some other basic things in life. Many times, we allow external influence in our marriage, our parents wants us to live or do things in a particular way, when we get our heads full of doing things their way or we are trying to be them or like them, we are going to get ourselves confused and likely miss ...