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We both married as unbelievers, now I’m converted to Christianity, my husband is hardened and adamant, he comes home drunk, he has broken bottle on me several times and he has defiled the matrimonial bed. What should I do? Response The heart of the king is owned by God, so the heart of every man is also owned by Him, the Bible says “there is nothing impossible for God to do”. Talk to God about him and your desires, what you want God to do in the situation. God will heal him and also buy back time for him, if you sincerely pray. Now that you know Christ, behold all things are new, you stopped sharing same life, interest and desire, you left him to his life of unbelief and sin. Now you have become a stranger to what both of you  used to like and probably enjoy. You need to understand that he does not have what it takes to change on his own or by his effort, because the devil is the master and also controls the affairs of the unbeliever, he may not see wrong in what he does unless he&

Why Should I Save Sex For Marriage? When God creates something, He creates it with purpose and plan. The Genesis account of creation makes it clear that God’s creation is good Genesis 1:31. But mankind has a history of distorting what God has made, whether out of ignorance or just plain stubbornness. Sex was God’s idea, God created it. And therefore it is reasonable to expect that it is good. But when man distorts it by ignoring God’s specific standard, it’s becomes harmful and destructive to man. “Why save sex for marriage?” is really a question of understanding God’s way, and experiencing the beauty of His plan, but we can choose to do things our way and experience harm and destruction Proverb 16:25.  Why sex? Was it in in plan of God? God wants us to develop intimacy, procreation. When God told Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply” Genesis 1:28, they probably figured out that He wanted them to have sex, because that is the only means to get a woman pregnant. There must be s

When sex is dirty Lusts are destructive to man’s soul. Galatians 5:19, “now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness”. Don’t give yourself up to the indulgence of sensual appetite, or to the soft pleasures of the soul.  Bible encourages us not to be conformed to this world, but we should be transformed by the renewing of our minds and also to set aside every weight that easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Rom12:2, Heb12:1. Lev. 18:22 reads, “thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind, it is abominable.23, neither shalt thou lie with the beast to defile thyself therewith, neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto. Jude 1:7, “Even as Sodom and Gomorrah and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire”.  1Corinthians 6:9,

There are so many others facing different and unique issues in their marriages. My advice to you either a man or a woman is that, when the issues are going out of hand and it seems you cannot go on in your marriage again, then you will need the intervention of friends, family and the church. Whoever you consider to help you should be someone you can trust for right support, and for you, what should be paramount is your well-being, how to take care of yourself. You love your spouse, but what is the reality on ground? There are problems you cannot handle and they are frustrating your marriage. Do not tell me that you are holding on and that you are expecting a change, what if there is no change? He is still doing those same things, how long can you wait for him hoping for a change? Have you thought about the effect of what can happen to you if he does not change? He keeps beating you, still drinks, fornicates and he is still all the nots, what effect will all these have on your health,